Are you a YES Mom?
Or do you say NO more often?
Why do we do that?
Why do I do that?
I don't want to be that kind of Mom.
I don't want to be that kind of person.
I'd much rather be this kind of person.
In much of my life, I am a YES person.
But the mom part of me far too often goes the way of the NO.
And yesterday morning it became clear to me that I don't want to do that anymore.
Let me explain.
On Friday, the kids got some gifts from Aaron's Aunt Tina.
She gives very thoughtful (and awesome!) gifts that are perfect for each person. You can tell she enjoys finding just the right thing for everyone.
One of Lilly's gifts was a pink and red, tin tea set.
She loved it.
William was quite enamored with it too.
So much so that when he woke up on Saturday morning, early, the first thing he asked me was, "Mommy, can I make a tea party for Lilly with her new tea set? I think she'd like to see it on the table when she wakes up."
What a sweet big brother.
Just the way you always hope your kids will act toward one another.
And you know what my response was?
"It's too early William. You can't eat chips this early and you're spilling water on the table and we haven't even had breakfast yet and you can just do it later."
And I heard myself saying these words but did not think about them at all.
It's like my mom autopilot turns on and I stop thinking, and I just start speaking nonsense.
He looked at me, disappointment on his face.
And that is when I stopped and I realized how utterly ridiculous I was being.
And I asked myself, "really? You are worried about a few tortilla chips before 8 am and some spilled water? Really? Does it even matter?"
Yes. Yes it does matter.
It matters so very much.
Saying YES takes so little from me but it means so much to them.
So I said YES.
And Lilly was thrilled.
And William was thrilled.
And it was really wonderful to watch them have a tea party together.
He told her how he set it all up.
2 cups for her and 2 for him. 2 plates for her and 2 plates for him.
To which Lilly grinned hugely and said, "for me, Wee-um?"
Oh how she loves to be loved by her big brothers.
And then William poured tea.
And they drank,
and enjoyed it all immensely.
As did I.
I'm so glad I said YES.
I'm giving you a challenge this week.
It's the same challenge I gave myself.
Be a YES mom.
Or be a YES person.
Do you find yourself saying "NO, we can't" because:
it's too close to dinner
it's too hot
you're too tired
it's too messy
i don't know how
it's too hard
it's not going to work
i don't have time
you're not old enough
i'm too old
i've never tried
it's not the right time
or whatever reason it is that makes it easier to say NO than YES?
If you've been saying NO, there's so much you've been missing.
Try it out and
see if you like saying YES! to life instead of no.
SAY YES POSTER: The SAY YES MORE THAN NO poster is by the artist, Anthony Burrill. His website is here and I strongly suggest you go over and take a look around. You will be sure to find some things you like. Don't say NO. Say YES! and go have some fun!